Monday, June 29, 2015

Love wins


Pertaining to this flag, there were so many different voices on facebook:
1) I'm sad seeing so many people change their profile picture to this "rainbow" photo:
#Well, why this bother you? Why when other people who is different from you get the same rights would make you feel sad? Is it other people happiness would lessen your happiness? Perhaps your happiness is too fragile? You say you are not discriminating or opposing, ok, then why it bothers you? If you were saying it contradicting your Christian principle, well, as long as you are not gay, stop bothering what the gay get to enjoy.

2)This has become a trend:
#Homosexual is barely a choice. If what majority of the people is doing considered as a trend, then there won't be homosexual since they were always the minority. If you ever observe more and more homosexual out there, it was not because of the trend that they are following and convert themselves to be trendy. It simply because they are now brave enough to come out, to admit they are gay, they are different from you but so what? Everyone is unique, when you are the majority doesn't give you the privilege to deny or judge how other people should live their lives. If you were saying the support for LGBT is a trend, then I'm happy to see this, it just means there are more loves than hates. If the supports hurt you, again, your mind is just too narrow.

3) Yea yea yea, because this is not happened to you, imagine if your kids tell you they are homosexual, will you still support this?
#again, this is 2 different issues. Supporting the LGBT for having the same rights like everyone else to love and to marry their loves one has nothing to do with supporting your kids to become a homosexual. Secondly, you can't encourage someone to become who they are not. Just like you can't encourage a heterosexual to become gay! This is completely ignorant. Before talking about your kids, put yourself in the shoes, if you were one, would you hope to marry your love one too? Would you want the law to protect your marriage like anyone else? And YES, definitely, I will answer my kids "so?" if they tell me they are gay. Just because the boy doesn't like girl, or the girl doesn't like girl doesn't make themselves less as my children. Every parent would want their kids to be happy, if this bother you, it's because you only want them to live how you want them to live, and this is your selfishness what makes you unhappy, not their behavior.

4) If you were saying anyone who loves anyone can get legalized marriage, then a father can marry his daughter, or a man can marry a dog.
#Again, ignorance. Perhaps you will rather a father marry the daughter (since marriage should be a tie between a male and a female by your definition), if brother were to marry the brother, then is a NONO? Ok, when you compare same sex marriage with depravity, then it is discrimination!
They are just like anyone of us, a guy met someone at school or at a party, they fall in love, they start dating, they do jealous, quarrel, talking, dreaming about their future, and they would also want a family, a family by two souls that love each other, who they will say "yes" to marry each other (if a dog can say Yes, or if one day we are wise enough to read a dog's mind, then only you bring this up again)

5) Please do not blindly follow what other people do, do you really understand what the six colors means?
# Yes, I don't understand before I change my profile picture. But who cares? Doesn't know the meaning of the colors does not mean the support you show is not sincere.
I do it because I know someone should step out for this group of people who have been living in the "wardrobe" long enough, it's time to come out without fear, and I would want them to live like anyone else, in a society where no one will ever make fun of their choice of living, no one will ever respond "huh??" when they confess, no one will ever judge them and make them too afraid to admit or being themselves. Why should they hide themselves to be comfortable living in this society? Who we are to judge them? Just because you being the majority does not give you the right to decide how anyone else should live their lives.

6) Someone gave an example of this 2 groups of people:
Left hander: you are to write with your left hand.
Right hander: I've used my right hand to write my whole life. In fact, this is traditionally the hand used to write.
Left hander: Write with your left hand.
Right hander: No, I don't agree that writing with the left hand is the way to write.
Left hander: You should agree with writing with your left hand. Be progressive.
Right hander: If you wanna write with your left hand, don't force me to write with my left hand.
Left hander: I don't get you right handers, why you keep disagreeing to write with your left hand
Right hander: Because traditionally we write with our right hands. And that's how the English language and most languages are invented to be, from left to right, hence using your right hand to write does not interrupt the writing.
Left hander: you are not progressive!
Right hander: You're just perverting the system.

This example actually does not reflect how things normally work with this left and right hand issue.
The ugly truth is, left handed always have to go through a period of being rectified when they were small, as majority of the tools invented are at right handed convenience, being the minority, they were being corrected to adapt to the world. The same goes to most of the homosexual, some say they should be saved. some say they should stop behaving this way, unfortunately.
As far as I know, in most of the case, left handed has never asked the right handed to write with their left hand, the only request they have is to letting them to write with their left hand, and do not see them as monster just because they don't write with right hand. Right handed being not progressive is when they start to judge the left handed as if they are the majority who are powerful enough to decide how everyone should write.
You may not be "non progressive" but apparently the progress made has provoked you which this thought still left me puzzled.

I'm sad seeing my gay friends have to hide and too afraid to admit as if they are being "abnormal", I want to say, it's totally fine. You like girl or boy, is your choice, every true love deserves same blessing, and you deserve to be happy.
If one day someone tells you they are gay, please answer"so?", it's not a big deal after all.



Wednesday, June 10, 2015

部落格

现在这年代还有人在写部落格或看部落格吗?
那种你得到某人的专属空间里才看得到的那些话……

今天突然想来这里看看了 看看曾经的自己都说过那些话
然后 现在的自己 还记得当时的心情吗?

再多三天就是二十八岁生日了。
其实并没有什么特别的感觉 既不期待 也不害怕再一步逼近三字头
每一天,时间都以同样的速度在前进不是吗?

二十八岁,对我仅有的意义只是以一个完整的时间单位告诉我
爸爸妈妈整整给了我二十八年无私的爱
让我过上二十八年踏踏实实被爱包缚的人生
我还凭什么觉得自己值得在这一天庆祝些什么呢……

从二十七到二十八,仅仅一年
为什么我觉得恍如隔世了呢
或许仅仅是这半年的经历让我突然长大了许多?
而那些日子我是怎么熬过来的……
原来不是每一段人生经历都值得存在 即使它让你成为现在的你

那些我没有说出口的话,没有做的事 不是我不在乎
只是我学会了更在乎你们的感受 尽管我偶尔还是个不称职的女儿

但那些淌着血的伤痕 烙印 挥之不去的恶梦
会一直和我纠缠不清到什么时候呢
或许每一个人 活到某个年纪 总会有一两件你不想触碰也碰不得的过去
随着时间过去 你变得再豁达 还是有些伤痛会狠狠的捆绑着你
大概就是这样吧